The Role that Faith in God Played in My Healing As A Victim and Survivor of Domestic Violence
What role did faith in God play in my healing as a victim and survivor of domestic violence?
My spiritual journey began early in life when as a 10 year old girl I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and personal savior. I was baptized in 1976 by my pastor at that time the late Dr. Reverend J. B. Barnes at Greater Emanuel Missionary Baptist Church in New Orleans, Louisiana. Throughout my life growing up my mother made sure her children went to church on Sunday morning. As a young adult, I always sought God in good and bad times in my life. The older I got and more of my own life experience I had my faith in God was an anchor for me, a guide for me, a example for me to strive to live my best life and my moral compass in life. I found strength, peace, love and joy via my relationship with God. So naturally when I got married 2000 I wanted a traditional church wedding with family and friends there to celebrate my wedding day. When I made a commitment to get married I took it seriously and I got married to stay married until death due us part. I believe in the institution of marriage. I believe that marriage is a covenant relationship a three strain cord with husband, wife, and God in the center of the marriage. When the hard time in my married came I sought spirtual counselor with my own pastor, associate pastor and marriage ministry mentor to save my marriage. Once my married was over, divorce paper was signed and I became officially divorce in 2011 there was still an aching in my soul. Even though my physical woes had heal due to the domestic violence injures that happened in my marriage mentally I was still dealing with loneliness, depression, shame, embrassment, disappointment, angry, confusion, and sadness. I began to pray that God would heal me emotionally, mentally and psychological after my divorce so I could start a new chapter in my life. I realized if I wanted healing to come from God I was going to have to yield to God way of thinking with the aid of the holy spirit and not my way of thinking. My healing as a victim and survivor of domestic violence came as a result of my faith in God as I utilized these spiritual tools. They are as follow:
SEEK TRUSTWORTHY SPIRITUAL GODLY COUNSELING
Talking to my Pastor Fred Luter, Jr., Senior Pastor Franklin Avenue Baptist Church New Orleans Louisiana and Associate Pastor Johnell Thomas, Franklin Avenue Baptist Church prior to ending my marriage helped in my healing process after enduring years of being abuse by my then spouse. Pastor Luter also encouraged me seek mentorship via our church marriage ministry. They both prayed for me and my husband at the time and they both encouraged me to pray and seek God for answers regarding my then marriage.
READ, STUDY AND MEDITATION ON GODS WORD
Reading my bible, although confused at time about what the scriptures in the bible said about marriage, domestic violence within a marriage, reconciliation in marriage, separation in marriage and divorce, helped in my healing process with aid of the Holy Spirit of God. I would read God’s Holy bible about marriage and divorce and the devil would try to make me feel guilty about leaving my abusive marriage but God would send via the aid of the Holy Spirit confirmation that I made the right decision to leave my abusive marriage. I can recall once I was watching a Christian television during the 2010 Thanksgiving or 2010 Christmas Holiday and Bishop T.D. Jakes was preaching about marriage. I beginning to feel guilty about my marriage ending and was in the process of going through my divorce and the Bishop T.D. Jakes said the only ways a marriage should end is by death, due to adultery or due to domestic violence and I know without a shadow of the doubt that God was releasing me from the sadness, guilty, shame, and embrassrament of was feeling at that moment for ending my marriage due to domestic violence. I believe as one of God daughter God would never want me to be abuse by my then spouse or anyone else for that matter and God was releasing me from my then abusive marriage without any condemnation.
ATTEND CHURCH SUNDAY WORSHIP SERVICE, SUNDAY SCHOOL, PRAYER MEETING AND BIBLE STUDY WORSHIP GOD IN SPIRIT AND IN TRUTH
Going to Sunday morning worship service, Sunday School, Wednesday night pray meeting, and Wednesday bible study at my local church Franklin Avenue Baptist Church (FABC) helped me in my healing process as a victim and survivor of domestic violence. Franklin Avenue Baptist Church Sunday Morning worship services are at 7:30 a.m. and 10:30 a.m. weekly. Sunday school starts at 9:15 a.m. Franklin Avenue Baptist Church weekly Wednesday night prayer meeting starts at 6:00 p.m. followed by the church weekly Wednesday night bible study at 6:30 p.m.
RETREAT WITH GOD
Attending my church Franklin Avenue Baptist Church Annual Women’s Ministry Prayer Retreat as well as other church women retreats at place like Tall Timbers Baptist Conference Center in Forest Hill, Louisiana, the Solomon Episcopal Conference Center in Loranger, Louisiana and the Battle House Renaissance Hotel in Mobile, Alabama help in my healing process as a victim and survivor of domestic violence. During FABC Women’s Ministry Prayer Retreat I got a chance to get away to be ministered to by others, pampered, pray quietly by myself, pray corporately with other women, and pour into spiritual by guess speaker taught, preached the word of God, who are strong in their faith in God and were able to testify how they came through the bad times in their lives by the grace of God.
READ CHRISTIAN BOOKS AND BIBLE STUDY GUIDES
Reading Christian books, bible study guides Christian magazine and sermons played a major role in my healing as a victim and survivor of domestic violence. Here are a some of the books I read during this time.
WATCH CHRISTIAN BROADCASTING PROGRAMS LISTEN TO GODS INSTRUCTIONS VIA TELEVANGELISM
Watching Christian television televangelists miniseries programs on Trinity Broadcasting Network (TBN), Inspiration Network, Daystar Network, the Church Channel, the Word Network, and the Eternal Word Television Netword like The Potter’s Touch with Bishop T.D. Jakes, Joyce Meyer Enjoying Everyday Life, Pastor Joel Osteen, and Pastor Paula White played a major role in my healing as a victim and survivor of domestic violence.
FELLOWSHIP WITH OTHER BELIEVERS
Fellowship with other Christian believers played a major role in my healing as victim and survivor of domestic violence by traveling to my church fellowship events at Franklin Avenue Baptist Church such as Spring Revival, Fall Revival, etc. where guest pastors preached who came from all over the United States , traveling to Bishop T.D. Jakes, Senior Pastor, The Potters House Church Annual Woman, Thou ArtLoosed! Conferences and MegaFest Conference in Dallas, Texas, Houston, Texas, and Atlanta, Georgia as well as going to hear Joyce Meyer preach the word of God at her conference tour at the Healing Place Church in Baton Rouge, Louisiana.
PRAY SPEAK TO GOD ABOUT YOUR HEALING
Praying and speaking the word of God over my life played a major role in my healing as a victim and survivor of domestic violence. I pray the Lord Prayer also referred to as the model. I pray the Serenity Prayer.
The Lord Prayer
Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil; For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. Matthew 6: 9-13 (KJV).
The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change COURAGE to changes the things I can and WISDOM to know the difference.
Each time I pray these prayers I feel a release and transformation in my spiritual self a healing in my mind, soul and body that everything will be alright with me and my children because God is a healer.
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