Take Back Your “JOY”!

Happy Holidays! Merry Christmas! Happy Kwanzaa! Happy New Year!

So far I have talked about in my previous blog posts aspects 1-3 (1. Yourself; 2. Life; and 3. Power) I had to take back or reclaim to heal as a survivor of domestic violence. In this blog post, I will take about aspect #4 “Joy” that I had to take back or reclaim to heal as a survivor of domestic violence as part of my blog “Take Back “Yourself”! blog series.


During this holiday season you will often hear the song “Joy To The World”.

What is joy? Have you lost your joy? How do you experience and express joy in your life during this time of the year and beyond? Victims and survivors of domestic violence can at time experience a lack of joy given the current and previous abusive circumstances they have endured in their life. How can you take back the joy you once had before the domestic violence abuse took it away? Let’s talk about taking back your “JOY”.


Joy is defined in Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary the emotion evolved by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires; delight; the expression of exhibition of such emotion; a state of happiness or felicity; bliss; and a source of delight.

The Bible speaks of the word “joy” in the following scriptures. In the English Standard Version (ESV) of the Bible, the word “joy” is references in the following scriptures.

Here are 21 bible verses about joy to encourage you when circumstances look bigger than Christ:



Sorrow and suffering will pass, but joy continues in spite of hardships. Eternal joy is promised to come and, when it does, it lasts.

  • Psalm 30:5 – For his anger is but for a moment, and his favor is for lifetime. Weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes with the morning.
  • Romans 5: 1-5 – Therefore, since we have been justified by faith we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
  • John 16:22 – So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.


Unlike happiness, joy is true satisfaction. Several times, God’s Word describes joy as “full” or “complete”. Joy satisfies he heart in away that temporary happiness never can.

  • Psalm 4:7 You have put more joy in my heart than they have when their grain and wine abound.
  • John 15:11 – These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.
  • Philippians 2:1-2 – So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my job by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.
  • 1 Peter 1:8-9 – Though you have  not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, obtaining the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls.


Throughout the Old and New Testaments, fullness of joy is found in the presence of the Lord.

  • 1 Chronicles 16:27 – Splendor and majesty are before him; strength and joy are in his place.
  • Psalm 5:11 – But let all who take refuge in you rejoice; let them ever sing for joy, and spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may exult in you.
  • Psalm 16:11 – You make known to me the path of life, in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasure forevermore.
  • Roman 14:17 – For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.


No power of positive thinking can bring lasting joy. Instead, joy is a supernatural work of the Holy Spirit in us, and characterizes the people of God.

  • Esther 8:6 – The Jews had light and gladness and joy and honor.
  • I Kings 8:66 – On the eighth day he sent the people away, and they blessed the king and went to their homes joyful and glad of heart for all the goodness that the Lord had shown to David his servant and to Israel his people.
  • Galatians 5:22-23 – But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.


Building our own kingdoms and following our agendas may offer temporary joy, but not lasting joy. Building God’s kingdom offers a special joy that can’t be replicated.

  • Luke 10:17 – The seventy-two returned with joy, saying, “Lord, even the demons are subject to us in your name!”.
  • Luke 15:6-7 – And when he comes home, he calls together his friends and his neighbors, saying to them, “Rejoice with me, for I have found my sheep that was lost.” Just so, I tell you, there will be more joy in heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine righteous persons who need no repentance.
  • Acts 15:3 – So, being sent on their way by the church, they passed through both Phoenicia and Samaria, describing in detail the conversion of the Gentiles, and brought great joy to all the brothers.


We are commanded to be glad, rejoice, and shout for joy. Joy is a deliberate act of obedience i response to who Christ is and what he has done.

  • Psalm 32:11 – Be glad in the Lord, and rejoice, O righteous, and shout for joy, all you upright in heart!
  • Philippians 4:4 – Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice.
  • Romans 12:12 – Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulations, be constant in prayer.
  • Romans 12:15 – Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.


If you lost your joy, as victim and survivor of domestic violence, here are some suggestions to take back your “joy”!

  1. Practice daily self-care. Take a bubble bath. Give yourself an at home manicure, pedicure, and facial. Give your hair a hot oil treatment. Sleep. Exercise. Eat healthy foods and drinks.
  2. Attend your local place church.
  3. Read your bible and look for bible scriptures that focus on “joy” and meditation on these bible scriptures.
  4. Find a hobby that makes you feel joyful.
  5. Create a “joy” journal and write down everyday things that brought you joy.
  6. Listen to spiritually uplifting music.
  7. Sing. You do not have to be a great singer but sing songs that encourage you, inspire your and uplift your spirit.
  8. Surround yourself with positive people (family, friends, coworkers, church members, and neighbors) who have a joyful spirit no mater what they may be going in their life good or bad.


As a victim and survivor of domestic violence, the holidays can be difficult and challenging if you have made the decision to continue to stay in the  abusive relationship or if you have decided to leave the abusive relationships. It is so important to find and stay connected to a positive support group of people during the holiday seasons as victim and survivor of domestic violence. Be intentional about getting  involved  and staying with a domestic violence support group during the holiday season and throughout the year. Be intentional about being around people who love you care about your well being and will pray for you. Be intentional about your self-care routine as victim and survivor of domestic violence during the holiday seasons. Be good to yourself this holiday seasons and give yourself a gift by taking back your “joy”!

In happy or sad times, in comfort or difficulty, we find joy in the presence of the Lord. Focusing on Christ – who he is, what he’s done to save us, and his promise to keep us – brings a supernatural joy that can’t compare with temporary happiness.

Thank you for reading my blog post. I hope that you come back for more next time. Feel free to like, share, and leave comments. #purplevision #empower #survive #honor #stopdomesticviolence




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