Power and Control: What role it places in domestic violence?

What role does power and control place in domestic violence?

Power and control place a major role in domestic violence. Power and control are used by the abuser to abuse victims of domestic violence. Webster New Dictionary of The English Language New Edition define the words power and control as following:

Power – 1. position of authority; 2. ability to act; 3. one that has power; 4. physical might; and 5. force or enter by used to do work supply with power.

Control – 1. exercise power over; 2. dominate or rule; 3. power to direct or regulate; 3. regulate; 4. restraint; and 5. regulating device

Here are the elements associated with an abuser ascertaining power and control over a victim of domestic violence.

1. Using Intimidation – making her afraid using looks, actions, gestures smashing things, destroying her property, abusing pets and displaying weapons.

2. Using Emotional Abuse – consist of putting her down, making her feel bad about herself, calling her names, making her think she’s crazy,  playing mind games. humiliating her and making her guilty.

3. Using Isolation – controlling what she does, who she sees, and talks to, what she reads, where she goes, limiting her outside involvement and using jealousy to justify actions.

4. Minimizing Denying And Blaming  – includes making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse didn’t happen, shifting responsibility for abusive behavior and saying she caused it.

5. Using Children –  making her feel guilty about the children, using the children to relay messages, using visitation to harass her and threatening to take the children away.

6. Using Male Privilege – encompass making her like a servant,  making all the big decisions, and acting like the “master of the castle”  being the one to define men’s and women’s roles.

7.  Using Economic Abuse – preventing her from getting or keeping a job. making her ask for money,  giving her an allowance,  taking her money, not letting her know about or have access to family income.

8. Using Coercion And Threats –  involves making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her, threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare, making her drop charges and making her do illegal things.

Victims of domestic violence need to be aware of how their abuser uses power and control to keep them in the cycle of abuse. Victim of domestic violence may began to question their on sanity during their abuse. They may ask themselves questions like Am I crazy? Did I do something wrong that caused my spouse or partner to abuse me? Why is the abuse happening to me? Should I continue to stay with my spouse or partner or leave? These are some of the questions that can come to the mind of a victim of domestic violence. Please know you are not along and there is help for you. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) or via the hotline at www.thehotline.org 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Know that God loves you. Love yourself. Take care of yourself. Be well. Be safe.

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  1. Ra'Nesha

    Wow this is a thought provoking post and very deep. It also sheds a lot light on people who battle with keeping their hands to themselves. Omg this is good!

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  3. Kenyatta Monique

    PREACH! You hit the nail on the head, every time. Its crazy most abusers tend to mask their craving for power and control just long enough to charm their “prey”. Great Post!

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