Affirmations is defined in New Thoughts and New Age terminology as the practice of positive thinking and self-empowerment – fostering a belief that “a positive mental attitude supported by affirmations will achieve success in anything.”

I was first introduced to the concept of positive affirmations in June 2010 approximately 3 month prior to me finally leaving for good my then husband of 10 years at the time due to the domestic violence I experienced from him. Prior to me getting married in March 2000 and throughout my married I always loved reading. On June 11, 2010 I purchased the book entitled “The Little Black Book Of Success Laws Of Leadership For Black Women” by: Elaine Meryl Brown, Marsha Haywood, and Rhonda Joy McLean from Barnes and Noble Bookstore on St. Charles Avenue, New Orleans, Louisiana for $21.80. While reading the aforementioned book I became aware of the concept of positive affirmations. Chapter 2 titled “To Attain Victory, Stay Positive” states use the tools you know – prayer and affirmations – to control and change your thoughts. Also, learn new methods to develop a leader’s mental attitude. It was in Chapter 2 of the book “The Little Black Book of Success Laws of Leadership For Black Women” it states and I quote “You must establish this habit of positive self-talk in your mind, because it requires regular reinforcement. Make it a habit. Invest five minutes a day before you head out to work. Tell yourself you can meet any professional challenges that life has to offer. Write down your positive affirmations in your Personal Leadership Notebook (PLN) and read them out loud, or write a positive prayer. The spoken word is extremely powerful.”

As I read this book I was given examples of positive affirmations I should say each morning before I went to work via the aforementioned book. As a once victim and a survivor of domestic violence each morning before going to work from June 2010 to this day I say these positive affirmations and others positive affirmations I have incorporated over the years in my morning routine. These positive affirmations are as follows:

1. I release the past and now allow myself to be filled with positive thoughts.

2. I deserve the best and welcome it into my life.

3. I see the good in everyone.

4. I accept for myself all the good things that life and work have to offer.

5. I am worthy and deserving of new challenges that come my way.

6. I am in the process of making positive changes.

Here are positive affirmations I have added to my morning routine since June 2010.

7. I love myself unconditionally .

8. I love my children unconditionally

9. I will persist until I succeed it is not over until I win I have greatness in me.

10. Money is easy to come by I can earn as much of it as I want.

Victims and survivors of domestic violence must be actively aware of what they are thinking. Proverbs 23:7 “As a man thinkers in his heart, so is he.” What kind of voice do you hear in your head as a victim and a survivor of domestic violence? Does a voice tell you that you can’t leave the abuse relationship because your spouse, partner, and or family member warned years ago that you were going to fail? Or that trying something new was too risky? If you begin to see a pattern of negative thoughts, write them down and then create positive affirmations to cancel them. Victims and survivors of domestic violence must re-program their thoughts. It’s the only way good things are going to come to victims and survivors of domestic violence in life. Negative self-talk can lower a victim and a survivor of domestic violence self-confidence.

Victims and survivors of domestic violence who are positive tend to be.

*More likely to be open to new experiences

* More likely to recognize opportunity when it comes their way.

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  1. Kelli Womack

    That was a great read. I love saying affirmations. I too say them daily. It really sets the tone for my day.

    I am healthy.
    I am blessed.
    I am loving.
    I am restored.
    I am healed.


    Love this! After many years of struggling with insecurity, positive affirmations have become part of my daily routine

  3. Kamira

    This is wonderful and so important we as women ( and men) reclaim out power back. It all starts with the mind and self love. When you build yourself up strong no one will be allowed to take your power again. Great post. Will share.

  4. Kenyatta Monique

    Yes Ma’am! There is Power in the tongue and our words are Magical!

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